Last week I talked about being a blogging bully, and the opposite of that is being wimpy. Blogging, like everything else in life, requires balance.
There are plenty of blogs on the market today, so finding your voice is that much more important. You don’t have to be controversial or crazy, but you do have to be yourself. For example, I’m pretty middle of the road most of the time, but I think you still recognize when I do a post myself as opposed to the guest submissions. I have developed a voice and writing style you recognize. I try to give my personal experience and opinions. While I’m not out to offend anyone, I also don’t worry too much about stating things the way I see them.
A wimpy blogger I am definitely not. What is a wimpy blogger? Here are some clues.
Afraid to Take a Stand
How do you feel on a certain subject? Do you shy away from giving your opinion? It’s okay if your opinion is that “X is right for some authors, although I prefer Y.” You’re still respectful of other writers. But if your opinion swings back and forth rather than lands on something concrete, you might have an issue with your writing voice.
Afraid to Get Too Much Attention to Your Blog
Today there are many bloggers who want attention for their blogs, but they are afraid of getting too much attention. They might shy away from making their blog really stand out just because it will get readers. With more readers, comes more criticism. No one likes to be called out on things, but if you’re purposely keeping your blog “under the radar” you might want to ask yourself why.
Afraid of Choosing a Subject or Stance That Isn’t Popular
Again, it’s okay to want to get along with people, but every once in a while you’re going to have to tell someone how you feel. How do you feel about online writers? How do you feel about self-publishing? Do you have a bias that you’re trying to hide because you think it could alienate people?
We should all be able to give our opinions in a way that doesn’t get in the face of someone else on our own blog. We’re writers, after all, and if we can’t manage that then we have a problem. So don’t be afraid to give your opinion (if you have one) because you’ll risk offending someone. Instead, give your opinion in a way that is still respectful. But if you hold yourself back and try to become something you’re not, your readers will know it.
Being a Blasé Blogger
One reason blogging has become so popular is because it allows us our own unique voice to come through. If you’re not passionate or don’t care for what you’re writing about, ask yourself why you are blogging. Are you writing a blog because you feel you have to? Because someone (a publicist, forum, other writer) told you that you should? Don’t blog because you should. Blog because you want to.
Being a wimpy blogger is not quite as bad as being a bully, but like anything in life it’s worth putting an effort into. If you’re not feeling it, then just don’t do it.